Missing someone
You know, when we start teaching young kids how to express their emotions, we often start by teaching them one of two ends of the spectrum; either you are happy or you are sad. So we ask little children about their emotions in terms of 'happy or 'sad'. But of course, in adult-life, things are not so simple. Everything gets more complicated as we grow up. Which is why we don't ask small kids whether they miss somebody.
Missing somebody, you see, is both a happy and sad feeling at the same time. Maybe too complicated for a young child to understand. With a weak memory, the lack of a real presence just means that person is not there. Which is why kids just cry like siao when their moms are not there. It's the memory of that person that makes the missing part happy. It's happy because that somebody is valuable to you, makes you happy, puts a smile on your face, lets you know you are treasured, and you know you are loved. Which is why you are sad when that person is not by your side when you crave for her. When you want to hug her, hold her hand, to put a smile on her face, make her laugh, let her know that she is loved. But she's kinda far away. But, it's the memory of that person that makes the missing part happy.
And so I daydream, smile to myself, look at things that remind me of her. Trying to raise the 'happy-meter' to a higher reading than the 'sad-meter'. :) Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. :)
In fact, writing this post is one of the ways of trying to raise the 'happy-meter' reading.
I miss you.
Missing somebody, you see, is both a happy and sad feeling at the same time. Maybe too complicated for a young child to understand. With a weak memory, the lack of a real presence just means that person is not there. Which is why kids just cry like siao when their moms are not there. It's the memory of that person that makes the missing part happy. It's happy because that somebody is valuable to you, makes you happy, puts a smile on your face, lets you know you are treasured, and you know you are loved. Which is why you are sad when that person is not by your side when you crave for her. When you want to hug her, hold her hand, to put a smile on her face, make her laugh, let her know that she is loved. But she's kinda far away. But, it's the memory of that person that makes the missing part happy.
And so I daydream, smile to myself, look at things that remind me of her. Trying to raise the 'happy-meter' to a higher reading than the 'sad-meter'. :) Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. :)
In fact, writing this post is one of the ways of trying to raise the 'happy-meter' reading.
I miss you.
hey dear buddy. this post struck a chord with me :)
and i do miss u! haha