Don't Waste Your Life

Life's a journey - don't forget to unpack.

Where it all meets

Perhaps then, it is at the cross of Christ that we find what we crave for most deeply in this world. Love and sacrifice, justice and mercy, faithfulness and grace. It is at the cross of Christ that all these meet, and if we dig deep enough into the core of our being, we will find that these are the things we will live and die for. - Me

To you, my reader. :)

There, look on me, so that you may not praise me beyond what I am; there, believe me, not others, about myself; there, attend to me and see what I have been in myself, through myself. - St Augustine

What makes him or her so wonderful?

Yea man, I agree with Alex and Cindy that there's been a surge of couplehood recently. Maybe it's the age we're in man. 老了。


I love the last line. 'What makes him or her so wonderful?'


Many things, yes. Many things.

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Looking at the increasing number of couplehood around me, I shall blog about what I read in the papers about love and relationship.

Food for thought for everyone *winks*

What Makes Or Breaks A relationship (weekend TODAY by Crispina Robert)

SAY YES!
Successful couples always look for the positive and try to say “yes” as often as possible. People in good relationships embrace conflict and work through them. In troubled partnerships, there are many “nos”.

LEARN TO GIVE IN
How accepting a man is of his wife’s influence is critical. Men who say to their wives: “Gee, that’s a good point” or “Yeah, I guess we could do that” are more likely to be in happier unions.

LAUGH IT OUT
Most conflicts are over minor things. It is how we fight and patch things up that makes or breaks a relationship. Using humour, affection, silliness, lust and touch can make profound connections

REMEMBER THE LOVE, PART I
Things that make it stick: Show respect and affection for your partner. Pay compliments, show interest, listen to their ideas and touch!

REMEMBER THE LOVE, PART II
Things that unravel a union: Criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling(to refuse to answer or cooperate) and contempt.


Anyway all these are based on findings by this guy John Gothman, the executive director of Relationship Research Institute.

One of his major findings is 81% chance the marriage will self destruct when a man is not willing to share power with his wife.

Well it is all about trusting, putting down yr pride, sharing, patient, having a sense of humour. Though having a person to beat up, poke fun at, laugh at, be critical of sounds really fun and self indulging, I guess there are limits to it. At the same time, you must also love and admire the other person for his good points - what makes him or her so wonderful?

1 comments:

  1. Rebecca said...
     

    so who are those contributing to the surge in couplehood? ;)

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