The ironies of weddings
Weddings are ironic.
We call it 'settling down', but it's actually probably the most unsettling experience we will ever have in our lives.
We 'save' ourselves for the big day, but spend every damned cent we have.
We use other people's money (packed nicely in an angbao) to pay for our own narcissism.
We want the wedding to be perfect, but no marriage ever will be.
We make the closest family members sit in front, and our friends at the back. But our friends are usually closer to us and know us more than our extended family. So, what's up with the cursory ritually imputed significance?
The VIPs may not really be that important.
Everything else tells us more about the bride and groom than their alloted speech time.
The bride has her hands full holding up the massive train of her gown, and no hands left to hold her groom's.
A bride has full rights to wear anything she wants and pose any way she wants, in ways she would never be in real life.
The couple are usually the furthest from their usual selves on that day, but their usual selves are really what we want to celebrate.
How much can/will a divorcee really celebrate at a wedding?
Wedding couples vary their shoe-heights to look like they are of a more similar height. And it is likely they will spend the rest of their lives trying to 'live up' to each other, and hate it.
Weddings are ironic.
We call it 'settling down', but it's actually probably the most unsettling experience we will ever have in our lives.
We 'save' ourselves for the big day, but spend every damned cent we have.
We use other people's money (packed nicely in an angbao) to pay for our own narcissism.
We want the wedding to be perfect, but no marriage ever will be.
We make the closest family members sit in front, and our friends at the back. But our friends are usually closer to us and know us more than our extended family. So, what's up with the cursory ritually imputed significance?
The VIPs may not really be that important.
Everything else tells us more about the bride and groom than their alloted speech time.
The bride has her hands full holding up the massive train of her gown, and no hands left to hold her groom's.
A bride has full rights to wear anything she wants and pose any way she wants, in ways she would never be in real life.
The couple are usually the furthest from their usual selves on that day, but their usual selves are really what we want to celebrate.
How much can/will a divorcee really celebrate at a wedding?
Wedding couples vary their shoe-heights to look like they are of a more similar height. And it is likely they will spend the rest of their lives trying to 'live up' to each other, and hate it.
Weddings are ironic.
wah bro, u make really good observations! it is indeed quite ironic yea?!